“Please remember to secure your oxygen mask before you help the person next to you.” What? Really? Are you telling me to be selfish? To care about myself first? What will people think if they see me taking care of my own needs, before I help my kids?
Some people think that if they are not selfless, they are selfish. I think that being selfless is a form of selfishness. Now I know what you might say: How can you say that I am being selfish, how is that fair? After all I am putting other people first and I am not even thinking about myself!
In order for you to love others, you need to have a foundation of love. That foundation starts with loving yourself. If you do not spend time investing in love, for yourself, you will not be able to love others properly. You will probably have resentment for others, while expecting others to appreciate everything you do for them. The mere fact that you “expect” appreciation, shows that the whole premise of being selfless is selfish.
Giving to people without expecting anything in return only comes from true self love. If you feel like you have so much, that you can give to others happily, only then will you not expect them to get something back.
Now that makes you a hero.
The worst person for a business is one that works for the money and doesn’t care about the mission, company or customer. This individual is not a bad person. The problem is that this person is so bogged down with their financial struggle that they are treading water and they can’t think about anything else but their struggle.
They come into work every day and they get just enough money to put out some fires. All the while knowing that its not enough. No matter how much they work, they will not be able to cover their bills at the end of the month. The whole reason they accepted the job to begin with is because they had no other choice. This job is not ideal for them. If they had enough money for all their basic needs, they would not be doing this.
They are suffering, the company is suffering and the customer is suffering. For business to be successful, you need to have a win, win, win. The employee needs to feel like they are getting enough to live and are happy with their path. They have to be thrilled to be working and contributing to the company all the while happily helping the clients succeed.
Ever walk into the DMV and notice that the people are miserable? They don’t make enough money to live, they hate their job, their life and they HATE YOU. There are so many unemployed people that would be so grateful to have a job. Why not give it to them?
Building a basic foundation for yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and financially will help you be your best and be a positive contributor to society.
Next time you hold the door for someone else and they forget to thank you, see how you feel. If you expected a thank you from them and you didn’t get it, you might be holding the door to please yourself.